Body Language: Judger or Perceiver

Determining someone’s personality type based on their subconscious cues isn’t rocket science, though it does take extensive practice and proper knowledge. Here are qualities we noticed about the body language of xxxJs and xxxPs.

Judger body language:

  • Person seems to be in control of the movement’s momentum
  • Person seems fully in control of the movement, from start to finish
  • Repeated movements (such as making a “chopping” motion with both hands for emphasis) have consistent starting and ending positions
  • Body energy is more contained, often resulting in the appearance of stiffness and orderliness
  • Body energy is never fully spilled out, leading to “trapped” energy at the end of movements, which appears forceful, jerky, vibratory or abrupt
  • Body movement is more intentional, which often manifests in the movement of only the relevant body parts for the task, for example only moving one’s arm and hand for waving
  • Hand gestures tend to be more precise and more clearly related to the point being articulated verbally

Perceiver body language:

  • Movements are carried by the momentum of the moment
  • Person does not seem fully in control of the movement
  • Repeated movements (such as tracing a line back and forth to illustrate a point) have changing starting and ending positions
  • Body energy is less contained, often resulting in the appearance of relaxedness and softness
  • Body energy is never fully contained, leading to “leaking” energy at the end of movement, which appears to be trailing off, unfinished, inseparable from the next movement
  • Body movement is less intentional, which often manifests in unintentional ricochet movements of many random parts of the body when the task only requires the movement of one part
  • Hand gestures tend to be more free-flowing and often not clearly related to the articulated point

Taking the time to observe large groups of people in your class or workplace, you’ll start to see the stark contrast between judger and perceiver body language. Some people might not be very obvious right off the bat, but prolonged observation will usually help you determine the subject’s body language type.

Happy typing!

What Se PoLR Is Actually Like

In the day to day business of typing people, we’ve run across a few high Se individuals who did not believe themselves to have high extraverted sensing. Why? Because they didn’t love clubbing and they didn’t feel “at one” with the environment.

But is that what Se is? As an INFP with Se PoLR (along with INTPs), I feel the painful lack of Se every day. Yet I enjoy a good party every now and then, and can achieve something close to a zen-like state with meditation. Clearly, Se is more than just its stereotype. It’s everything to do with the concrete and external.

Recently I received an early Christmas gift: a foot bath and massager, one that you plug into an electrical outlet and fill with water. And upon seeing this new physical contraption that I’ve never seen nor used before in my immediate physical environment, I started to feel uneasy. It required some rudimentary assembly of parts. I didn’t even want to touch the thing, but eager to tell my boyfriend how I liked the present, I started reading the instruction manual. Upon reading the safety precautions section about all the ways I could accidentally electrocute myself, I got a headache and felt my anxiety soar.

Now some of you reading this might think I’m daft, or even have a mental illness. Have you ever told someone an idea, or explained a concept to someone, only to watch them become inexplicably drained or overwhelmed? That person probably has low Ne, which deals with the external and the conceptual. This is how low Se users are, except with the external and the concrete.

The most notable example of this is with tools, which I struggle with often. The ones I’ve used more often, such as knives and water heaters are less of a problem, since their repeated use has cemented a place in my Si (the concrete and the internal). The ones I’ve used less often, such as that foot massager, cars and cameras don’t always lead to anxiety and headaches, but are nevertheless a huge drain on my energy. Obviously over time, the new tools that we stick with become incorporated into Si and become a non-issue.

Some of you might think I’m exaggerating with this Se PoLR stuff but consider this: I felt extremely nervous the first handful of times I’ve used an oven. Same with several “normal” everyday appliances such as vacuum cleaners. To this day, I still prefer to sweep and then use a wet cloth. It sounds silly but the thought of not knowing which buttons to press to dislodge the dust container from the vacuum is enough to make me instantly tired. In contrast, I can read about and listen to complex conceptual theories all day without feeling drained, even if I’m not particularly interested in the subject.

So the next time someone says they’re definitely not a high Se user because they’re not a party animal or daredevil, ask how much they truly struggle with the concrete in the external.

INFPs and ISFPs – Stop Trying to Use Your Fe

This post is inspired by the popular self-help book Never Eat Alone.

Eating all my meals for the rest of my life with other people? Sounds like a nightmare torture scenario. Eating meals for the rest of my life with people for the ultimate purpose of networking and career advancement? Count me out.

My inferior Te draws me towards a lot of self-help books that promise success in the external world. If you want success in the conventional “American dream” way, you can basically do it one of two ways: the Fe way and the Te way. Extraverted judging is what we use to affect external reality and try to shape it to our Ji liking.

From just the title of the book, we can assume that the author is writing about the Fe way. Upon further reading, I realized that many of the book’s principles are entrenched in Fe: generosity, interdependence, implicit reciprocation. Upon looking up video interviews of the author, it’s clear that he’s indeed a high Fe user.

For those new to Socionics, Fe inhabits the 5th cognitive function slot of INFPs and ISFPs, meaning we’re subconsciously somewhat good at it, but we don’t value it. While reading the book, I’m keenly aware that the world (at least half of it) does work upon those principles, but I can’t imagine myself adhering to them. Instead, I believe the Fi doms who wish to be more effective in the world have to strengthen their Te muscles.

This applies to everyone else’s precarious relationships with their 5th function:

INTJs and INFJs are better off not forcing Ne creativity, but rather strengthening their Se for a more organic Se search of realistic possibilities.

ENTPs and ENFPs are better off not forcing Ni tunnel vision focus, but rather strengthening their Si to rein in their Ne and establish some semblance of routine.

ISTJs and ISFJs are better off not forcing Se spontaneity, but rather strengthening their Ne to enjoy tangential adventures.

ESTPs and ESFPs are better off not forcing Si routine and recall, but rather strengthening their Ni to remain in generally the sphere they want.

ESFJs and ENFJs are better off not forcing Fi values to surface, but rather strengthening their Ti to figure out what makes sense for more consistency.

ESTJs and ENTJs are better off not forcing Ti logical modelling, but rather strengthening their Fi to figure out their values and preferences for more consistency.

ISTPs and INTPs are better off not forcing Te logical effectiveness, but rather strengthening their Fe to apply their findings externally.

Not all self-help books work for everyone, and it’s especially interesting to find out the psychological types of its authors. What is your type, and which self-help books (or even works of fiction) have worked for you?

Why Is Fi So Intense?

I sit here, bawling my eyes out, an oversized mug of wine by my side. I’m wondering: why is the cognitive function introverted feeling so intense? Stereotypes are at least partly rooted in truth, but why is it that Fi and depression often come hand in hand?

Introverted judging is divorcing from reality. Yup, Ti users face similar issues. Unlike extraverted judging, which operate according to reality, Ji makes its own rules. An Fe user smiles because its an appropriate time to smile. An Fi user smiles because their personal laws deem the occasion worthy of happiness. And no shade there! Ti is a few layers deeper than Te. That’s the nature of introverted cognitive functions.

So what’s the problem? Well, having your own laws is swell, but the real world doesn’t always abide by those laws. And that’s frustrating. Ti users sometimes find that what’s logically sound in a vacuum fail to apply reliably in the real world. But at least Ti is based on reason, so Ti users tend to have more overlap between their principles and reality. Fi users often find that what feels right doesn’t do right. “I want to be an artist,” but two months later I become homeless. No wonder there are so many disillusioned INFPs. ISFPs face similar issues, but auxiliary Se gives them a healthy dose of reality.

Reality often clashes against our ideals, and it hurts. Because Fi is who we are. If Ti is a model of how the universe is or should be, Fi is a model of who I am or should be. Being told that’s wrong or implausible is exhausting and disheartening.

Ji dominants have it rough, but Je doms have their own share of problems. The world around us is chaotic and meaningless, so we need Ji to center us. People with inferior Ji often experience burnout because they’re less aware of Ji’s steadfast truth and purpose.

So this post is for the people who lead with a judging function, introverted or extraverted. (Of course, the perceiving doms face problems too, but different ones.) Je doms are frequently adapting to reality without knowing what they believe in. In contrast, Ji doms experience reality destroying their ideals every day.

The most empowering thing I can say to us sensitive Fi doms is this: remember that we’re the makers of our own reality. Ji (and everyone has Ji here or there) is the agent of change. No matter how fast you can go, you still need a compass.